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I would delete Snapchat, Paramount+, and most dating apps from people's phones. Online dating can be time-consuming and male-dominated, but there are some exceptions like Hinge, which uses a matching algorithm. Cultural differences can also affect how people use dating apps. However, there are some funny and interesting aspects that can emerge from the social game theory of dating apps. A program exists to help clean up phones by deleting unwanted apps.
Top 3 apps I would delete on people's phones:
- Paramount +
- Most dating apps
Why Dating Apps?
Online dating sucks. You’re much better off trying to meet people in real-life situations, where there is a more reasonable ratio of men and women, you can learn more about people then their favorite vacation spots, and the people have a lot more time to learn more about you too.
Or, you can try meeting people online but not in a surface-level dating-oriented site. Plenty of people formed couples through discord or their favorite video games. Unfortunately my understanding is that most online places are still male-dominated, but hopefully that’s changing as we are becoming a more tech-oriented and women-inclusive society. (View Highlight)
Have you read the cold start problem? The online dating marketplaces optimize for women and the men naturally follow.
Ie. If there were a bunch of single women in any marketplace, men would naturally flock there, like any social media platforms dms
The users for online dating are women, men are the commodity (View Highlight)
I've been thinking about whether friendships could be described as having a purpose beyond personal fulfillment, and I think it shares some parallels with dating. One of modern dating's great albatrosses is the hedonistic treadmill: the Tinder-induced "Welcome to Hell" of meeting, connecting, dating, and ghosting, repeated ad infinitum. Dating around is a perfectly good way to pass the weeks and months and years, but at some point, if you're not committing to something – building towards a "we" that exists outside of yourself – the initial thrill of intimacy begins to take on a saccharine, artificial quality (View Highlight)
In terms of supply and demand, men are very heavily supply side and women are very heavy demand side. Out of any random number of men, women get to "demand" the best partner for them.
Due to how the "approach game" works, men are usually the ones who "open" leaving women to respond to potential options/suitors.
On dating apps, scale starts becomes a factor quickly. Women are virtually approached by a high number of suitors at the same time instead of sequentially, changing the dynamics of the game substantially.
Hinge, one of the hottest dating apps out there, differentiates itself from its rivals like Tinder or Bumble by building a ‘like’ system similar to Instagram which allows its users to ‘like’ another user’s posts or photos, instead of doing simple arbitrary swipe left/right for someone’s entire profile. This article discusses how the Gale–Shapley algorithm, an algorithm that solves The Stable Marriage Problem has been applied to Hinge’s platform. The parallel it draws between how Hinge first compiles a front page for you with people that the algorithm finds most compatible with you and how the show Love Island populate a room full of men and women picking from each other points straight out how the algorithm has been implemented on the front end. (View Highlight)
Just like what we learned in class, a stable marriage contains two individual who both prefer one another, Hinge is always trying to have their users reach that state of stable preferences which could lead to a stable and happy relationship. (View Highlight)
Essentially, this classic matching algorithm from the 60s enables users nowadays to better pursue their love interests and relationships digitally online in a highly effective way. (View Highlight)
Not Just an American Phenomenon
Looks like all the dirt of the city assembles here only,” says a man sitting with his wife and three children under a tree in the Kalindi Kunj Park against the backdrop of the Delhi Eye, a 200-foot-tall ferris wheel.Arun believes it’s the man’s persistence to woo them that matters to most women. “People from my strata don’t have the option to trust anyone quickly. How much a person can wait is ultimately the sign of their interest. We don’t swipe each other on apps,” he says while pointing to a cheap smartphone in his hand. Even though China-made affordable smartphones are making inroads among India’s poor people, dating apps such as Tinder remain the province of wealthier people because of the social stigma associated with dating and premarital sex.“High-profile people like you can go to restaurants or hotels. We have just parks”, says Arun, an 18-year-old commerce student.
Take polyamory. I had a revealing conversation recently with a student at an elite university. He said that when he sets his Tinder radius to five miles, about half of the women, mostly other students, said they were “polyamorous” in their bios. Then, when he extended the radius to 15 miles to include the rest of the city and its outskirts, about half of the women were single mothers. The costs created by the luxury beliefs of the former are borne by the latter. Polyamory is the latest expression of sexual freedom championed by the affluent. They are in a better position to manage the complications of novel relationship arrangements. And if these relationships don’t work out, they can recover thanks to their financial capability and social capital. The less fortunate suffer by adopting the beliefs of the upper class. (View Highlight)
Occasionally Dating Apps Do Indeed Work
So, I downloaded Tinder, in an attempt to prove to myself that I still possessed worldly desires. Resultantly, I met up with a cute girl named Sundae on a lantern-lit patio. (Location 449)
And There Are Some Great Bits That Emerge From The Interactions/Social Game Theory
This program helps you clean up your phone by deleting apps that you may not need. Based on a set of criteria, it deletes Snapchat, Paramount+, and dating apps if you are a man or have had negative experiences with online dating. The updated list of apps is then returned. Try it out and see how it can help declutter your phone!
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